Life seems to go so fast looking at the past but looking at the future, it only comes one step at time… Enjoy the PROCESS.



SERVICE: The Heart Of Leadership

The term leadership can be seen as the ability to pull ones’ subordinate along for the purpose of achieving a specific objective or goal. According to Koontz Etals, Leadership “is an influence, that is, the act of influencing people so as to strive willingly and enthusiastically towards the achievement of a goal.” Leadership, therefore, entails service to people for the achievement of a common goal; service then becomes an essential ingredient for good exhibition of leadership. If service is at the centre of leadership, the big question we are immediately confronted with is this; what then becomes the fate of a country that is ruled by self-centered leaders? This write up is inspired by the need for service in leadership while stressing servant-leadership style as the best for us, Nigerians.

With blessings accrued to her by God of mineral resources, breed of intellectuals, skilled and available man power; the lack of genuine service has crippled the nation (Nigeria) such twrong he nation which was on its feet is gradually crumbling financially and morally with some citizens suffering bitterly. Over the years, Nigeria as a country has suffered tremendously in the hands of crooked and self-centered leaders. It is obvious that the rich in Nigeria gets richer while the poor get poorer; even the recessed Nigeria we are passing through today is as a result of our desire to always take and not to build.

Our leadership spirit must foster unity, promote harmony, sustain both human and material development, and ultimately, it must promote service which is a valuable action, deed or effort performed to satisfy a demand. “The servant leader is a servant first… ” this begins with the natural feeling for service of others, hence, a conscious aspiration to lead. Such person is different from the one who is a leader first, perhaps, because of the need to assuage a curious power drive or to acquire material possessions. While traditional leadership generally involves the accumulation and exercise of power by the one at the top of the pyramid, the servant-leader shares power, put the needs of others first, and help people develop their talents, so as to encourage effective performance in the society.

What Nigeria society needs, therefore, is servant-leaders who are able to acknowledge their need for service (people who put God first); men of integrity, who can boldly distinguish right from wrong and stand on their convictions despite pressures and temptations. Persons of good character who have a patriotic love for their followers. The Nigeria leadership system needs prominent figures not only on books but of character to be role models, mentors and coaches, to inspire a life of dignity, integrity and responsibility among the youths who eventually would take over the affairs of the country in their retirement or departure from this earthly life.

This means that, emphasis must be placed on service to others, a holistic approach to work, promotion of communal life, and sharing/distribution of power in decision making. The leaders and followers must be committed so as to design a goal program to fulfill the vision of the Nigeria we want.

Winston Churchill once said: “never give in, never give in, never ever give in, in something, great or small, large or petty-never give in except to the convictions of honour and good sense.” This is what our country needs from its leaders which is, to have the mindset of service, integrity, self-discipline, among others. The followers on the other hand must learn to work and support their leaders in their quest to serve them, taken into cognizance that without good followers, the leaders would be frustrated. When this is done, true leadership would be achieved and consequently, the Nigeria we want would become a reality.



Enjoy these beautiful quotes about Love… And share the beauty if you wish… (Smile)

1. Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.
— James Baldwin

2. We waste time looking for the perfect lover instead of creating the perfect love.
— Tom Robbins

3. If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn’t have fallen for the second.
— Johnny Depp

4. All, everything that I understand, I only understand because I love.”

— Leo Tolstoy

5. Each time you love, love as deeply as if it were forever – only, nothing is eternal. — Audre Lorde

6. The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart. — Helen Keller

7. We must love one another or die. — W. H. Auden

8. Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
— Lao Tzu

9. Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.
— Lucille Ball

10. Unless you love someone, nothing else makes sense — E.E. Cummings

11. To love is nothing. To be loved is something. But to love and be loved, that’s everything.

— T. Tolis

12. Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. — Robert A. Heinlein

13. Love is when you meet someone who tells you something new about yourself. —Andre Breton

14.The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in— Morrie Schwartz

15. It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know. We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death. — Eleanor Roosevelt

16. Love is a promise, love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear. — John Lennon

17. Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes.
— 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (The New Jerusalem Bible)

18. Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses. — Ann Landers

19. Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. — Rumi

20. The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart. — Helen Keller

21. You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear — Oscar Wilde

22. Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. — Oscar Wilde

23. Love is the most terrible, and also the most generous of the passions; it is the only one which includes in its dreams the happiness of someone else. — Alphonse Karr

24. Anyone who falls in love is searching for the missing pieces of themselves. So anyone who’s in love gets sad when they think of their lover. It’s like stepping back inside a room you have fond memories of, one you haven’t seen in a long time.
— Haruki Murakami

25. The heart wants what it wants. There’s no logic to these things. You meet someone and you fall in love and that’s that. — Woody Allen

26. If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you. — A. A. Milne

27. Love can make even nice people do awful things. — Jude Deveraux

28. Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time. — Maya Angelou

29. When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. — When Harry Met Sally

30. You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. — Dr. Seuss

31. Love is the one thing in life that makes everything worthwhile. — Carrie Ann Inaba

32. Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit. — Khalil Gibran

33. Love is unpredictable and it’s frustrating and it’s tragic and it’s beautiful. And even though there’s no way to feel like I’m an expert at it, it’s worth writing songs about—more than anything else I’ve ever experienced in my life. — Taylor Swift

34. You can’t put a price tag on love, but you can on all its accessories.
— Melanie Clark

35. Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.
— Peter Ustinov

36. To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.
— David Viscott

37. I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.
— Martin Luther King, Jr.

38. Love is more than just a feeling: it’s a process requiring continual attention. Loving well takes laughter, loyalty, and wanting more to be able to say, ‘I understand’ than to hear, ‘You’re right.’ — Molleen Matsumura

39. There is no remedy for love but to love more. — Henry David Thoreau

40. Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused. ― Paulo Coelho

41. Where there is great love, there are always miracles. ― Willa Cather

42.If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don’t, they never were. — Khalil Gibran

43. Love cures people – both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it. — Karl Menninger

44. The love we give away is the only love we keep. — Elbert Hubbard

45. Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that. — Martin Luther King Jr.

46. When I say I love you more, I don’t mean I love you more than you love me. I mean I love you more than the bad days ahead of us, I love you more than any fight we will ever have. I love you more than the distance between us, I love you more than any obstacle that could try and come between us. I love you the most. — (Unknown)

47. To love unconditionally requires no contracts, bargains, or agreements. Love exists in the moment-to-moment flux of life. — Marion Woodman

48. Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive. — Howard Washington Thurman

49. I would rather spend one lifetime with you, than face all the ages of this world alone. — J.R.R. Tolkien

50. I swear I couldn’t love you more than I do right now, and yet I know I will tomorrow. — Leo Christopher

Enjoy your day… (1 smile from me)


In a noisy world, the quiet ones are thought abnormal… And in a quiet world, the noisy ones are thought abnormal. The wisest thing is knowing when it’s necessary to be either of the two. But I still think a quiet and meditating environment seems much more pleasant to live in, because even a good speech, is not prepared in the market square.

Thoughts Of The Moment- Terry Mark

There’s one gift that even an enemy would always appreciates from his rival, the gift of LOVE.

I have my bad days and I have my good days. But my bad days are usually the days I decide to replace my FAITH with FEARS or the days I become ignorant of the blessings in my Life.

Today, I chose to be happy not because I have everything in Life, but because I’m still alive.

Don’t let what people say, stop you from doing what God says. God created you not them. Fear only God.

Focus your eyes on the Price not on your failures.

“True Love” (Last Part)


The Bible has a remarkable story about a woman named Leah, who discovered that finding true love was difficult (Genesis 29:21-35; 30:1-21). Leah was caught up in a struggle to earn her husband’s love. Three sons later, she was still clinging to the hope that one day, he would wake up and start to appreciate her. She kept waiting and waiting. Eventually, Leah gave birth to another son, her fourth. Leah named him Judah and announced “Now I will praise God.” Judah’s name means something special. It means to praise or be thankful to God. But how could she praise God when her outward circumstances had not changed? (WHY?)

With the birth of her fourth son, Leah had a life altering realization. She realized that while her husband refused to love her, God was present in her life! God had noticed every pain, every sorrow, every moment of rejection she had ever experienced and He was pouring blessings into her life (Genesis 29:31). God loved her unconditionally!

Leah did not realize it at the time, but Leah, and her son Judah, were ancestors of a man named Jesus. This is the Jesus, whom Christians worship and who the entire Bible anticipated. It is a fitting end to the love story because no one would ever offer greater hope and love than God.

It’s difficult to find true love from another person like us because we are all too self-interested. Our hearts are bent toward protecting and promoting ourselves. It is not hard to see! We live in a culture that constantly measures the success of every relationship by what we get out of it. We stay married only as long as it is benefitting to us, not really thinking about the other partner. We are more into finding true love from the other person. We are only after our own protection and security and rarely takes into consideration the security and protection of the other person.

Honestly, TRUE LOVE has never really been about romance or passion; it is about truth and value. It is about vulnerability and acceptance. It is about wholeness and finding peace. It is about discovering a foundation on which we can build our lives and on which we can place our hope and confidence. It is about feeling we are worth something. It is about sharing vulnerability and in the midst of it, feeling loved unconditionally. Beside this, we have fake love which fades away in no time leaving us broken and terribly hurt. If the end is seperation and hurt, why even go into it or continue with it?

Adam and Eve were the first to enjoy True Love. If you are familiar with the Bible story of the first sin, you will remember it involved a simple proposition; “Eve, if you will eat of this fruit, YOU will be like GOD.” It is strange that the serpent did not use the delicious looks of the fruit to tempt Eve. Instead, the serpent offered Eve a thought about herself. Eve asked herself a question she never wondered before, “what’s in it for me?”. This moment of self-discovery came with massive consequences. This act of disobedience led Adam and Eve to the startling realization that they had been naked this whole time. For the first time, they felt vulnerable and ashamed. They made clothes to cover and protect themselves.

God discussed their disobedience with them, because He knew that all of their relationships were falling apart as a result of their self-interest. Eve blamed the serpent for tempting her. Adam blamed Eve for giving him the fruit and then even went so far as to blame God for giving him Eve in the first place! (Genesis 2:18-23). Neither one wanted to take the blame but was concerned only for their self-interest.

The consequences for disobeying God were the loss of true-love relationships. Adam and Eve would never be allowed back into the perfect garden world. They lost everything. We know their new world of self-interest and self-protection, because we carry with us the same sin-bent reality. We long for real love because we were created from/with love, to love and be loved unconditionally. This is probably the most important point in this entire article:

“You will never find or experience the true love you seek in this world alone. Each of us and the world around us is too soaked in sin. The great news is that there is One who is the very definition of Love and you can be in a relationship with Him! (GOD).

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“TRUE LOVE” (part one)

LOVE remains a complete mystery. Science has not been able to explain it. Mathematics cannot predict it. Poets still wrestle with adequate words to describe it. We are all looking for true love, an unconditional love, but does it really exists?

One of our frustrations with love is our complete inability to keep it. Like sand slipping between our fingers, the harder we grasp, the faster it seems to fall through.

We are also aware of the truth that love cannot be manufactured. It cannot be bought or traded. It cannot be forced. It cannot be controlled.

Below are few things to think about when it comes to True Love:

we use the word LOVE to describe a lot of things. We love food. We love music. We love a good joke and we love having a good time. Using love to describe such simple things makes the word seem a little safer. It is safe because we are not exposed. A great cup of coffee cannot reject us. A favorite song does cannot use and dump us…hence cannot make us feel worthless or useless. But when we chose to share our life with another person, we inevitably make a choice to become vulnerable. Unfortunately, vulnerability leaves our defenses down and often we get hurt.

Opening our heart to another person is a big risk, and to be rejected, is one of the most painful experiences in life. It hurts the most because in love, we are most vulnerable. It’s worse than physical pain because it shakes us at the core of our identity, our hopes, and our dreams. Love seems to lift us up to the sky with its wings and sometimes leaves us mid-way crashing to the ground helplessly… leaving us with injuries and pains. We from there feel hurt, disappointed, hopeless, worthless and sometimes begin to see life in the negatives.





The truth is, the universe is too big for only one person to comprehend and even with that, the knowledge of the whole world cannot explain the entirety of the universe and the forces that operate in it. Science itself makes use of ‘infinite’ when explaining certain things within the universe. Why am I saying these: so that we begin to understand the beauty of PERSPECTIVE! Having a differing opinion from me doesn’t totally make you wrong, and vice versa. Our judgement of things comes from the totality of our experiences and encounters drawn from our environment (family, friends, culture, school, e.t.c.) as we grow up. So don’t be afraid to have a different opinion from someone nor be disappointed when someone has a different opinion from you.

I was watching an indian movie a few days ago and they made a very remarkable reference with the numbers ‘9’ and ‘6’ in describing perspective. I learnt something.

When you’re looking at the number ‘9’, another person standing directly on the opposite side is seeing the number as ‘6’. Now who among them is wrong? Both are right from their own perspective or side of view.

Let’s be honest, we can’t all see the world in the same way at the same time. Assuming the world is as small tennis ball, hold it in the air and you’ll never see all the sides at the same time!

We need other views/knowledge to have a broader view of the world. We need opposing views either to test the validity of our knowledge or views or to complete it.

But the ‘9’ and ‘6’ case also have a hole that needs to filled. Whoever wrote the number and does not intend to be misunderstood wouldn’t intend to make the number ambiguous… He/she would surely have a reference for the number; that is where he intends to be the top and bottom of the number and whoever that stands against the reference would surely know that he/she is wrong and would kindly accept it.

In the same way, when dealing with life’s issues and the universe (and its operating forces) we must find out from the author of life and the universe where He/She marks as His/Her reference. Am sure the Author/Giver of life and the Maker of the universe is not a man that we can go and ask directly,so we can only pray and seek for His divine wisdom to guide us right (Matthew 7:7-8). Like I always say, I don’t like quoting the scriptures but I think it also helps. 🙂




Sometimes I’m pushed to ask: Which is very important in relationships: LOVE OR UNDERSTANDING?

Love is indeed a special word (feeling) and so is ‘understanding’; or you can call it “EMPATHY” (feeling what others are feeling or putting yourself in someone shoes each time you’re dealing with them). Your parents can love you, but if they do not understand you (emotionally and mentally enoug), they may love you so deeply and you’ll still dislike them because you’ll hardly feel it. Sadly, some children get to understand how much their parents loved them only when the parents are no more. You can hear a child saying “I love my dad/mum, but…” or you can hear a parent saying “I love my children so deeply but they never seem to appreciate my efforts…especially the older ones.”

Understanding or ‘Empathy’ is very important in relationships. It’s the next thing to hold onto once it’s established that love truly exists in such a relationship. Many people today think they hate each other but if we can take off our ego and trace it down to the bottom, that which we call “HATE (opposing love)” is simply a misunderstanding. Which means, one can actually love someone, but hate them for what they don’t understand about them. For instance, if you judge a person from a distance, you can easily begin to hate or dislike him/her for what you assumed them to be, until you’re able to come close to them and make them trust you enough to open up their inner-hidden-person to you, then you may begin to like them. And a lot of people are really beautiful inside, but always protect your inner beauty, their are a lot of wolves everywhere in the world today (Prov. 4:23). Sometimes I don’t like quoting scriptures because people would expect perfection from you (Mark 10:18), but that doesn’t mean I should rejoice in my sins.

I have seen people happily married obviously out of love but painfully break up later on. And one may wonder that it was not love at the first instance then. Yes maybe, infatuation; but some after such breakage are still deeply broken because they still love and care for each other despite they’re seperated. In this case, I think it’s misunderstanding. They are yet to take time, take off their egos and learn to understand each other for how different they may be. Some may see it as being weak, but of what benefit is ‘strong’ or ‘tough’ if it brings one nothing but pain and misery.

I may go on and on writing and may even get you bore, because I love doing it… Writing. But what I’m trying to explain is: Love Grows, Without Understanding it would either remain where it is or grow shorter resulting in bitterness, anger, pain, disappointment, confusion, seperation, etc. Understanding (or call it Empathy) is beautiful; in it we find peace, forgiveness, strength, clarity and so many other gifts. With understanding, hate or dislike or other negativities can’t haunt you, because you’ll realized they are mere products of ignorance. Do not forget to carry along Understanding when heading to Love.

I hope you Understood me? (smiles), please do.

Have a Bright, Beautiful ana Peaceful Day Ahead!!